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Date: Thu. Jun. 18 2009 10:55 PM ET
Alberta Finance Minister Iris Evans has backtracked from her statement that one parent needs to stay at home in order to raise a child properly, saying Thursday she understands all parents need to make choices that are right for them.
Evans, 67, declined media interviews on Thursday but issued a written statement to clarify her remarks, which she made on Wednesday to the Economic Club of Canada in Toronto.
"I understand some people were offended by some of what I said. I did not intend to suggest there is only one way to raise a child," Evans wrote.
"Having worked for most of my adult life while raising kids, I understand no situation is the same and that parents have to make difficult choices that are in the best interests of their children, and I applaud them for making these choices."
In Wednesday's speech, Evans said that good parenting means that one parent has to sacrifice their job for the sake of the children.
"They've understood perfectly well that when you're raising children you don't both go off to work and leave them for somebody else to raise," Evans said. "This is not a statement against daycare. It's a statement about their belief in the importance of raising children properly."
The parenting remarks were not her only controversial comments during the Wednesday speech. She also said that a lack of education in children leads to mental illness and crime.
Alberta Liberal leader David Swann called for Evans to apologize saying her comments were insulting to working families.
"It's a fact of life in Alberta that in many families, both parents have to work -- especially now," he said.
"How much further out of touch can the Tories get?"
Swann said Evans would be better off to focus on managing the economy after posting the largest deficit in the province's history.
Fellow Liberal MLA Kent Hehr said she embarrassed her province.
"This put Alberta in a non-progressive light and doesn't show women as contributing members of society," he told CTV Calgary.
Duane Bratt, a political scientist at the Centre for Military and Strategic Studies in Calgary, told CTV Calgary that Evans opened up a debate without actually providing any answers.
"She offended a lot of people with what she said," he said.
Premier Ed Stelmach was in Yukon Thursday and was asked to comment on what his finance minister said.
He responded that couples within his own extended family both work outside of the home.
"We have a tremendous respect for working families -- both parents working contributes greatly to the province of Alberta and to the country of Canada," he said.
With files from The Canadian Press
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I applaud the budget, even though Health Care and education may stay unscathed. Sadly this cannot last and I worry to later this year where cuts will become enviable. If anything, this provides the Wildrose Alliance plenty of ammo when an election is called.


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Kevin in Alberta
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Scott
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Angry
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Her resignation should be demanded as she clearly is not in touch with the populace or the issues within.
Marcello
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Rick
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KC in Calgary
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That being said - the costs of living; especially housing, make this extremely difficult for the majority of people.
M
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Keith in Brampton
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Mind you, I hope she's ready for the backlash and the loss of voter support...
PØlìTìcallý_ìÑ¢ôRrÊ©T but right!
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The minister is right. A child is always best reared by a parent or parents if at all possible. The state does a totally poor and inadequate job to rearing children. The last thing I would want is for the nanny state to raise my kids. That is a sure remedy for screwed up kids in my estimation.
Instead of two BMW's or that boat or bigger home, families wherever possible should try as much as is possible to be there to raise their children.
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Buba
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Ryan
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Rick in NB
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It is also sad to say, with the economy the way it is most parents have to work to provide lifes necessities.
Norm in Alberta
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Joyce - Rural Knee Hill County- Alberta
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Don
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My wife stayed home and raised our kids and we and they suffered as far as money was concerned but she was there when they needed her
I also feel a lot of troublemakers etc would be better if they had a parent at home for them
As far as wives working goes the government (high taxes, utter waste and theft) and the unions (out of touch wage demands driving prices up) and family greed (mansion to live in upon getting married Big boats campers etc) have made it almost impossible for only one to work
Matt
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Second, we should take the minister's advice and make it mandatory for one parent to stay at home. After all, prior to women entering the workforce, there was no such thing as crime or mental illness.
(Sarcasm emphasized)
Ayla from Oakville
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On a separate note however, the mental illness comment is disgusting. Shame on you for that!
Make the right choice for your family.
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Daddy
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Gail, NS
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I hate to point this out, but every welfare-parent out there stays at home - are you suggesting they are all better parents than working Moms and Dads just because their kids aren't with babysitters? You know that isn't true - it has nothing to do with whether their parents stay home or not (or whether they are on welfare or not).
I have nine brothers and sisters, all of us raised in a 'traditional' family with a stay-at-home Mom and working Dad. I am the only one of all of us who ever made it through high school and I will earn my MBA next year. I work full-time and raise my three children (yes, make no mistake, it is ME raising my children, not their babysitter!) and all of them are growing up to be much better people and citizens than my siblings did.
Please stop clinging to these traditional stereotypical ideals that are not only out-of-date in todays society, but also dead wrong. Mere presence does not make a good parent.
Chris in Ontariariari-Oh!
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BMIA
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She uses the model espoused regularly by Jim Dinning and Stockwell Day way back in the nineties. All incarnations since then (West, Nelson, McClellan, Oberg, Evans) have simply rubber stamped the same budgeting format.
Problem with this method is that no thought is being given to actual budgets and finance. The model works fine when you budget for oil and gas prices that are a fraction of the price with the price going higher. But it falls apart when you budget for a high price with falling prices.
Our government is spending more now than it ever has and is now projecting a deficit larger than we have ever had and the price of oil even today is significantly higher than it was ten years ago (back then oil was at $10/barrel and gas at $1).
Iris Evans is a very inept finance minister and an extremely poor performing MLA.
Phineas from BC
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She should be more careful, too much truth is suicide nowadays. Good for her.
Weve gotten to a sad place though, where it is so expensive to get a house in a city (most Canadians live in em), that most single income families are living in appartments.
JoeC from St. Thomas, ON
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The Minister is correct, and it can be done, as long as you don't try to keep up with the Jones.
Dan from Northern Ont
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Jo
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Have you bought groceries or gas lately?
Been to a Dentist?
One income doesn't cut it, and two sometimes doesn't either.
She claims lack of education causes problems - then quit taking money out of the education systems and start putting some back in. Maybe if we were all better educated, we could have better paying jobs and one parent could afford to stay home!
Glenn in Wiinipeg
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If she is right, then Harper should agree with her
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So if Harper does not agree with her, then either she or Harper is wrong.
So which is it?
Does Harper agree or disagree with that statement? (Yes, I know she's provincial and Harper is federal. That's irrelevant to the issue.)
Concerned Canadian
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Thanks to the feminist movement, it is now very difficult for average working people to survive on one income.
That's because when women when out to work, family incomes rose to the point that single parent families, and families with only one income, were at an economic disadvantage.
The consequence is that rather than giving women more choices, feminism actually forced lower-class women out of the home.
But now we discover that children raised without a parent at home are more likely to use drugs, are more likely to drop out of school, and are more likely to engage in sex at an earier age.
This is also true when dad is removed from the picture. Girls raised without fathers are more likely to seek attention from boys, and more likely to have sex at an early age.
But remember, according to Gloria Steinem, a woman needs a man like a fish needs a bicycle...
Except that apparently kids need a dad like...well, like a kid needs a dad.
So if Conservatives really do believe in family values, why don't they give more support to single moms, and make it easier for moms to stay at home to raise their kids?
And if feminists still think that men are not important in families, why don't they explain why kids turn out so poorly without fathers?
Just asking.
And by the way, whatever happened to Gloria Steinem?
Oh yeah.
She got married.
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I have always felt that the government should give some sort of tax breaks for families who do decide to have one parent stay at home. Why should folks get a break for putting their kids in a daycare, and I can't get one for staying home and raising MY kids MYSELF. I just don't get it!
And honestly, what mother doesn't want to stay home with their kids? If you really want it, it can be done.
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I think the people who take offense to this do so because they must know its right and feel guilty.
A large part of society's ills today is because parents don't care enough to raise their own kids. Like Scott said there is no insult like the truth, both parents working just means that money is more important than the kids, no other reason or excuse, because you can always make due with less.
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Dennis
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GBL
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Sounds like a typical Albertan response...."Just throw money at it"
Dan in Quebec
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TGT
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"As far as wives working"?!?
Just what century are you living in?
L.A.
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Time for Ms. Evans to resign or to phone Alberta's Auditor General to review the books.
Government of, by, and for the people
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Parents are next under God to their children. No way should parents trust the state. I have plenty of evidence to prove that some agents of the state only care about themselves and lie all the time.
Anything can happen to a child in a state-run day care.
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I live in Manitoba and work full-time, as does my wife. Our 3 kids are doing very well in school, have excellent social skills, and are caring and compassionate individuals, including our youngest who incidentally has cerebral palsy.
She certainly doesn't give Albertans a lot of credit.
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Being an example of sacrifice for those around us is not a bad thing and certainly we live in a country where people get their needs and wants list a little blurred.
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My parents did it with me and my brother and managed to make ends meet. Actually I think they have done better than most 2 income families. They didn't have to pay for expenses that most 2 income families do (ex. daycare and babysitting, after school programs, etc).
People do not seem to get how much they spend by not staying at home. But then again, so many people just blow their money anyway. No wonder they have to both work!!!
Besides the economic reasons, children should be raised by their parents, not other people. They need it so much to develop properly. Sacrifice for your children, people.
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Yeah, you may have to do without the latest "toys" and fads but have you ever noticed young kids would rather play with the box over the new toy that came in it! Society in general will be better off.
As for the education and mental illness comment, I hope some of it was out of context. Lack of education, jobs, finances, etc. is a consequence of mental illness, not vice-versa. Treatment of mental illness is something our whole social system is lacking (not just health care but social services) though it is improving - especially compared to even 30 years ago.
DJ in Foothills
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My decision to stay home was a positive one for me also!! I had the opportunity to see my kids grow and change!! What a blessing!! We struggled financially but it was well worth it and I would not have changed a thing.
Sue in Calgary
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Matt in NB
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Mr. B.
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What kids lack is structure,stability, the word NO and RULES!!!
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I think that people waste too much time and energy worrying about what other people think.
T. Calgary
Tessa - Calgary
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my take on this
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We as Canadians are fed up with struggling just to survive, I call on all 3 levels of Government to come up with a solution so that our future children can have a proper upbringing and not being dropped off to daycare. Nobody should have to come from school with no guardians at home.
Point made.
Parent in Calgary
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It seems no matter what opinion someone in government expresses, someone is all up in arms about it.
Well GUESS WHAT? Children **ARE** better off with a full time parent.
Can't manage it because one parent doesn't make enough? Maybe if more people stayed home to raise their kids, there would be less people to fill positions, making employees more valuable and worth paying more.
With so many people in the work force, employees are literally a dime a dozen.
Maybe you can't just have both parents enter the work force with no consequences other than more income, huh?
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No apologies needed.
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Maybe she should apologize, for judging.
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Chris in Calgary
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I applaud her comments and wonder when our goverment is going to allow income splitting to make it possible for more single working families viable?
Rosanna - Calgary
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Dunny from Manotick
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Wendy Edmonton
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Raymond
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Her (correct) comments stand in stark contrast to the horrifying suggestion of a National Daycare Program so frequently espoused by the federal opposition parties. Imagine your children being raised/programmed by unionized socialists. Ugh...the horror!
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Zack Z from Calgary
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That's because they actually spent family time with me. And THAT's what's important.
As a side note, it's interesting to see that the comments in support of her's get a thumbs-up and those who are against get a thumbs-down.
So then, she can express her own opinions and those against her can't. Logical.
Diane in Lethbridge
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I made huge financial sacrifices in order to stay home with my kids. It wasn't easy - but it was the right thing to do.
I know there are some situations where parents absolutely need to work. But I'll eat my shorts if they all have to. The people who are the angriest are not single parents, or even those who are struggling to make ends meet. It's the ones who feel guilty because they MUST HAVE brand new cars, big TVs, Wiis, X-boxes, golf memberships, winter holidays - or whatever. It's where our society has, and continues, to mislead us.
Staying home with our kids means investing in a generation that will one day be running this country. If anyone thinks we have lackluster leaders now - just hang on to your hats! We ain't seen nothin' yet.
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DC in AB
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Mr. Stelmach, CONTROL YOUR CAUCUS!
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Pat Lovitt
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I am mother of 4 wonderful children, I did not get my wished for dining room suite until I was married for 20 yrs. I am now a 67 yr old Grandma of 6.
I raised my children with the help of a wonderful hardworking husband and we were broke for donkeys years, but we were happy and so were our kids. They didn't have Sun Ice jackets like their peers in school, we couldn't afford them, They got one each upon entering High School, and they were told it had to last them. We never had the police at our door or drugs in our home. We, like our kids learned the value of a dollar by doing without and NOT crying the blues, When we got what we wanted, we sure appreciated it, and also, took care of it.
I blame TV for our "instant gratification world". Keeping up with the Joneses has been going on forever. Teaching our kids that hugs and loves every day are far more important than anything material, is the best thing we ever taught them. They are good adults and parents, we are very proud of them. Good for you Iris Evans, don't you apologise! PS I was privileged to have finest profession in the world! It is called motherhood.
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I wish that we all put family first, not in term of financially but spiritually.
Thanks to the Minister who has the courage to bring out the right point.
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HOnestly, I can't stand the mouthy, aggressive kids who come out of daycare--so desperate for attention! Some of those places are even putting infants and toddlers on a "curriculum" to impress the aggressive, competitive parents.
Kids deserve a childhood, and parents deserve time to spend with their kids. Let's support the parents who stay at home and quit shoving daycare down everyone's throats!
Go Iris! Never be afraid to speak your mind!
Ben, Edmonton
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bunny from BC
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Good girl, stick to what you said, I am in agreement with you.
Stephanie from Ontario
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"This put Alberta in a non-progressive light and doesn't show women as contributing members of society,"
Why does he assume it will be the women who will be staying home with the children? There are many man that stay home with their children as well. It sounds to me like he has the prehistoric views not Ms Evans.
Laureen
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Don't fear the critics. Kids need advocates in this culture. Common sense with common observation is aware why kids are going astray. Not only do they need a parent at home, they need parents that stay together without going off and making blended upon blended families. Kids first!
John Klassen ,Fenwick ,ON
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As for those who think she is right I wouldnt be so quick to listen to her on parental skills. When her kids were young she had them digging through garbage in the neighbourhood to collect product labels for her to enter contests. Not a shining beacon of parenting.
For those saying 2 income families are only about having the big houses, big cars and constant vacations think again. After the 45-50 percent payed in taxes, user fees and other charges to all levels of government, the extra charges at schools, the inflation that outdistances wage increases most double income families dont have as much left as some of you think.
As for evans she is an embarassment to Alberta, along with the rest of this government of idiots. I guess if all families had one parent at home all the time the government wouldnt need to deal with some of the issues such as daycare. Not that they deal with many issues anyway. Her financial handling and stelmachs lack of leadership has put this province into a deficit for the first time in 35 years, have mishandled the heritage fund and decimated the education, health care and infrastructure in the province. But hey, at least their looked after with huge pay increases and benefits.
ultamatt in n.s.
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Gail, NS
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Can't afford for both parents to stay at home? Maybe you should sacrifice the car and house, and move into public housing because your kids need you more at home.
Don't agree? You still think it's ok for one parent to work, but not both? Well then, according to this, your kids really have only one 'good' parent (because you really can't have this both ways), and that's the one at home. Which one are you?
Nanook
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Too bad I did such a crappy job bringing her up - by myself.
Iris - give your head a shake and please don't insult the single, working parents or the 2 parent families that must both work to make ends meet. Not everyone makes a decent wage.
F. Mersereau
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Gen. Lee Wright
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That should stick to you for the rest of your career, you non-contriubting zero, hack of a politician. Secondly, how DARE you presume that the person who stays at home to care for a child, or children, is a woman - how "progressive" are you?
Shouldn't the liberal party, of all parties, be the one supporting gay marriage and horse-baby marriage, etc?
So perhaps you should consider that I'm a stay-at-home-dad who's a "contributing member of society" and raising my child(ren). Furthermore, I won't be voting for a non-"progressive" party such as your because you evidently don't represent me, nor should anyone be proud to claim that you represent them.
Shame on anyone for attacking MLA Evans for her principled stand.
Andy H
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DOWN WITH HOUSEWIVES!!
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God forbid that I as a mother, actually enjoy my job and my life outside of the house AND my little girl at the same time. I went back to work when she was 4 months old and Im a better Mom for it. I enjoy every second I have with her and love coming home to her. Would I quit to stay home? Not in a million years.
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