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Date: Thu. Jun. 18 2009 10:55 PM ET

Alberta Finance Minister Iris Evans has backtracked from her statement that one parent needs to stay at home in order to raise a child properly, saying Thursday she understands all parents need to make choices that are right for them.

Evans, 67, declined media interviews on Thursday but issued a written statement to clarify her remarks, which she made on Wednesday to the Economic Club of Canada in Toronto.

"I understand some people were offended by some of what I said. I did not intend to suggest there is only one way to raise a child," Evans wrote.

"Having worked for most of my adult life while raising kids, I understand no situation is the same and that parents have to make difficult choices that are in the best interests of their children, and I applaud them for making these choices."

In Wednesday's speech, Evans said that good parenting means that one parent has to sacrifice their job for the sake of the children.

"They've understood perfectly well that when you're raising children you don't both go off to work and leave them for somebody else to raise," Evans said. "This is not a statement against daycare. It's a statement about their belief in the importance of raising children properly."

The parenting remarks were not her only controversial comments during the Wednesday speech. She also said that a lack of education in children leads to mental illness and crime.

Alberta Liberal leader David Swann called for Evans to apologize saying her comments were insulting to working families.

"It's a fact of life in Alberta that in many families, both parents have to work -- especially now," he said.

"How much further out of touch can the Tories get?"

Swann said Evans would be better off to focus on managing the economy after posting the largest deficit in the province's history.

Fellow Liberal MLA Kent Hehr said she embarrassed her province.

"This put Alberta in a non-progressive light and doesn't show women as contributing members of society," he told CTV Calgary.

Duane Bratt, a political scientist at the Centre for Military and Strategic Studies in Calgary, told CTV Calgary that Evans opened up a debate without actually providing any answers.

"She offended a lot of people with what she said," he said.

Premier Ed Stelmach was in Yukon Thursday and was asked to comment on what his finance minister said.

He responded that couples within his own extended family both work outside of the home.

"We have a tremendous respect for working families -- both parents working contributes greatly to the province of Alberta and to the country of Canada," he said.

With files from The Canadian Press

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Kevin in Alberta
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She is partly right. This is why I love Alberta. We still have people in Government that aren't afarid of saying what they feel. If you don't like it you can leave it. Go Stamps!


Scott
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Good for her! There is no insult like the truth.


Angry
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I am more shocked at her comments about education and mental illness! There are many highly educated persons around the world that are suffering from Mental Illness. It's completely absurd. Mental Illness is a chemical and physical disease, not unlike diabetes and cancer. A lack of education breeds ignorance... You, Mrs. Evans are ignorant of the issue.

Her resignation should be demanded as she clearly is not in touch with the populace or the issues within.


Marcello
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Amazing how we've gone from a society that was able to raise brave children with one parent at home to a society only able to produce, on average, wimps and morons where both parents are chasing after money; money that is supposed to be offering the child the best possible existence.


Rick
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Yes Iris, then most of us that have children would be homeless as one income does not pay the bills in the majority of middle income homes in this day and age, except when you are in politics! Right?


KC in Calgary
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I agree with her. I fully plan to have one parent stay at home with my future children.

That being said - the costs of living; especially housing, make this extremely difficult for the majority of people.


M
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IF Calgary wasn't so money hungry it might be possible for parents to do this.


Keith in Brampton
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While I completely disagree with what she said, I applaud her for standing by her words. Too few politicians - or anybody - these days has the guts to do so.

Mind you, I hope she's ready for the backlash and the loss of voter support...


PØlìTìcallý_ìÑ¢ôRrÊ©T but right!
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The politically correct can go jump off a bridge!

The minister is right. A child is always best reared by a parent or parents if at all possible. The state does a totally poor and inadequate job to rearing children. The last thing I would want is for the nanny state to raise my kids. That is a sure remedy for screwed up kids in my estimation.

Instead of two BMW's or that boat or bigger home, families wherever possible should try as much as is possible to be there to raise their children.




Rex
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I agree with her, but sorry to say it takes two incomes to support a family. If our taxes were lower and people were not trying to keep up with the Smith's and have all the toy's we would be able to look after our children and teach them well with one parent working. The goverment would all of a sudden see they would not have to put tax money into daycare anymore and would see the savings. But only for Mayor Dave to wrongfully spend it and we will be going backwards again.


Buba
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Another neanderthal from Alberta's Dinosaur valley who didn't practice what she preaches according to Maclean's magazine.


Ryan
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Unfortunately the way she phrased her comments and the media's subsequent focus on her remarks killed what was a good point. Parents need to take the time to teach their kids life skills (including managing their finances) and shouldn't expect the system to do it all for them. Interestingly enough, kids don't learn as much from parents they don't see. Even when both parents work, they still have that obligation to spend time to teach their kids, not surprisingly this is easier when one parent is with them full time.


Rick in NB
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It's sad to say, but she has a point. There are certain years in a childs life that need parental rearing. Family values can only be taught by the faqmily.

It is also sad to say, with the economy the way it is most parents have to work to provide lifes necessities.



Norm in Alberta
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Way to go Iris, speak your mind girl. I think every couple would love to be able to afford to have one of them at home raising their family and teaching their children. Being there for your child is remembered much longer than what you bought for them last Christmas.


Joyce - Rural Knee Hill County- Alberta
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I wonder if this means that she will provide Albertans that stay home with an income. Most families just can not make it on one income. Most families would love to have a parent stay home and raise their children. Ms. Evans just needs to provide the financial means to back up her statement.


Don
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She is right
My wife stayed home and raised our kids and we and they suffered as far as money was concerned but she was there when they needed her
I also feel a lot of troublemakers etc would be better if they had a parent at home for them
As far as wives working goes the government (high taxes, utter waste and theft) and the unions (out of touch wage demands driving prices up) and family greed (mansion to live in upon getting married Big boats campers etc) have made it almost impossible for only one to work


Matt
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I agree with her for two very important reasons. First, children brought up in lone-parent homes have never contributed anything meaningful to society. They just continue to leach off of society. Right?

Second, we should take the minister's advice and make it mandatory for one parent to stay at home. After all, prior to women entering the workforce, there was no such thing as crime or mental illness.
(Sarcasm emphasized)


Ayla from Oakville
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I applaud Iris for her comment on one parent staying at home. It is true, and I have seen this through the many people I know that if one parent stays at home, or even decreases their work hours, I find that children grow up to respect their parents more and realize that having loving people around you for support and encouragement is something that cannot be replaced by money and being materialistic. That is what's wrong with North American culture. We are way too money driven, and lose sight of the meaning of family and parental respect. I come from a European/Middle Eastern background, and parents that have a child actually take time out of their work or decrease their hours to actually, properly take care of their children themselves. Why would you have children if you're not the one raising them anyway? I truly feel sorry for the kids that do not get to see their parents regularly, it's a shame.

On a separate note however, the mental illness comment is disgusting. Shame on you for that!


Make the right choice for your family.
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It's really too bad so many people jump at the chance to be offended. I agree with Scott; Though two parents can work and raise wonderful children. Myself; I never worked until my children were in school and I don't work over the summer. Makes finding work difficult but the reward is sooo much better. We have one car (newer), live in a 2 year old home and and bring in only $55,000 anually. It can be done. You have to make the sacrifices and the reward is yours.


Daddy
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Funny, I agree with you all! I certainly don't want to miss my children growing up but how do you pay basic bills if you don't. We just had a baby and thank goodness my wife gets the first year with him. If she wasn't collecting U.I. we would not be able to. Until we as a country put family first, other people will bring up our own kids. Shameful!


Gail, NS
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Sorry folks, but being a good parent has nothing to do with whether you stay home with your kids or go off to work. That is just ignorant of reality.

I hate to point this out, but every welfare-parent out there stays at home - are you suggesting they are all better parents than working Moms and Dads just because their kids aren't with babysitters? You know that isn't true - it has nothing to do with whether their parents stay home or not (or whether they are on welfare or not).

I have nine brothers and sisters, all of us raised in a 'traditional' family with a stay-at-home Mom and working Dad. I am the only one of all of us who ever made it through high school and I will earn my MBA next year. I work full-time and raise my three children (yes, make no mistake, it is ME raising my children, not their babysitter!) and all of them are growing up to be much better people and citizens than my siblings did.

Please stop clinging to these traditional stereotypical ideals that are not only out-of-date in todays society, but also dead wrong. Mere presence does not make a good parent.


Chris in Ontariariari-Oh!
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She's welcome to her opinion and I'm willing to bet there are a lot of people out there who agree with her.I have seen many case's where both parent's worked at good paying job's and had little time left over at the end of the day to adequately spend quality time with their children and they were often left to their own device's.The parent's feeling guilty would buy them material thing's and rather than sit down to a meal together would order in takeaway or go out to a restaurant.The all consuming need to get ahead can be costly to the well being of a child and psychologist's can argue this subject in a number of different viewpoint's but the respect a child gain's from the personal rearing of a child by a parent last's a lifetime.It is a delicate subject but I don't alway's think it is in the best interest of the child to rely too heavily on other's to raise your child as this may explain the disassociation many parent's have with their children.That doesn't alway's turn out good.


BMIA
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I won't comment on her words but I will comment on her abilities as a finance minister and MLA. Inept is the easiest one-word description I can arrive at.

She uses the model espoused regularly by Jim Dinning and Stockwell Day way back in the nineties. All incarnations since then (West, Nelson, McClellan, Oberg, Evans) have simply rubber stamped the same budgeting format.

Problem with this method is that no thought is being given to actual budgets and finance. The model works fine when you budget for oil and gas prices that are a fraction of the price with the price going higher. But it falls apart when you budget for a high price with falling prices.

Our government is spending more now than it ever has and is now projecting a deficit larger than we have ever had and the price of oil even today is significantly higher than it was ten years ago (back then oil was at $10/barrel and gas at $1).

Iris Evans is a very inept finance minister and an extremely poor performing MLA.




Phineas from BC
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See no Truth, Hear no Truth, and for sure dont speak ANY!!

She should be more careful, too much truth is suicide nowadays. Good for her.

Weve gotten to a sad place though, where it is so expensive to get a house in a city (most Canadians live in em), that most single income families are living in appartments.


JoeC from St. Thomas, ON
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My wife and I have been married 26 years, and have raised two girls, with one parent always at home (that is, not working outside of the home), while the other one worked. We own our own home, but do not have any of the big "toys" that other people have.

The Minister is correct, and it can be done, as long as you don't try to keep up with the Jones.



Dan from Northern Ont
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Yes and no. We have maternity leaves for a reason, but you have to balance raising a child with providing for them. We actually need more politicians that are as open with their views as her. (Not necessarily sharing her views, but not afraid to be honest with the public)


Jo
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I agree with her. Why even have children if you're not willing to put some of your time into raising them? That being said, too bad there's no governmental support for those of us who would stay home. Never mind the two BMW's, etc. how about a roof over your head, food in your stomach, the ability to pay for the necessities of life!

Have you bought groceries or gas lately?

Been to a Dentist?

One income doesn't cut it, and two sometimes doesn't either.

She claims lack of education causes problems - then quit taking money out of the education systems and start putting some back in. Maybe if we were all better educated, we could have better paying jobs and one parent could afford to stay home!


Glenn in Wiinipeg
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It looks like Swann will never be Premier in Alberta.


If she is right, then Harper should agree with her
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Right?

So if Harper does not agree with her, then either she or Harper is wrong.

So which is it?

Does Harper agree or disagree with that statement? (Yes, I know she's provincial and Harper is federal. That's irrelevant to the issue.)




Concerned Canadian
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If it's a good idea to have one parent stay home to take care of the kids, then why don't Conservative governments make it easier for that to happen?

Thanks to the feminist movement, it is now very difficult for average working people to survive on one income.

That's because when women when out to work, family incomes rose to the point that single parent families, and families with only one income, were at an economic disadvantage.

The consequence is that rather than giving women more choices, feminism actually forced lower-class women out of the home.

But now we discover that children raised without a parent at home are more likely to use drugs, are more likely to drop out of school, and are more likely to engage in sex at an earier age.

This is also true when dad is removed from the picture. Girls raised without fathers are more likely to seek attention from boys, and more likely to have sex at an early age.

But remember, according to Gloria Steinem, a woman needs a man like a fish needs a bicycle...

Except that apparently kids need a dad like...well, like a kid needs a dad.

So if Conservatives really do believe in family values, why don't they give more support to single moms, and make it easier for moms to stay at home to raise their kids?

And if feminists still think that men are not important in families, why don't they explain why kids turn out so poorly without fathers?

Just asking.

And by the way, whatever happened to Gloria Steinem?

Oh yeah.

She got married.


Johnnie Oil
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good for her and I agree, I strongly believe having both parents out working for the mighty dollar is a major cause of high level of juvenile crimes, lack of resposibility etc. When the two working parents get home they spoil the kid out guilt or just plain don't have the time to spend with them but what to do with what everything costs today it is very hard to just have one parent working as most are not willing to sacrifice that second income.


TLC
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I so agree with her! As a stay at home mom of four, we have made a lot of sacrifices to live this life. We live in a small home (1000 sqft), drive one new vehicle and one beater. The kids have what they need (no big name brands here) and you know what ... we're all happy! Sure, their friends go to Disneyland or Hawaii for holidays, we go camping ... but the kids will tell you that they wouldn't change it. Are they missing out? No way ... are we as the parents? Not in your life!

I have always felt that the government should give some sort of tax breaks for families who do decide to have one parent stay at home. Why should folks get a break for putting their kids in a daycare, and I can't get one for staying home and raising MY kids MYSELF. I just don't get it!

And honestly, what mother doesn't want to stay home with their kids? If you really want it, it can be done.


Calgary Guy
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I completely agree. Owning a house/car/etc isn't a right, and if you choose to have children you should be prepared to raise them.

I think the people who take offense to this do so because they must know its right and feel guilty.

A large part of society's ills today is because parents don't care enough to raise their own kids. Like Scott said there is no insult like the truth, both parents working just means that money is more important than the kids, no other reason or excuse, because you can always make due with less.


Mom of 4
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I frankly don't see anything wrong with what she said.


Val
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Wow, common sense in the govt. I'm impressed. I didn't give birth to my kids to have someone else raise them. I worked night shift and slept short hours. Sacrifice! When my daughter did end up in daycare, the teachers said they noticed that young children with at least one parent home were far more advanced than children who were bounced to sitters, daycares or grandma. I still sacrificed my career and worked part-time and shopped bargain clearance stores and still looked like a million bucks. Even hubby refused to do side jobs on weekend because Daddy at home was more important than a few extra bucks for fancy big screens. She is fundamentally right whether both parents need to work to make ends meet or not. She's still right.


THE Fatman
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BINGO! She is right on the mark regarding her comments related to a parent needing to be in the home with the kids! Having the biggest house on the block, two Audi's in the drive, a cottage on the lake with 25 acres of land and a 38' cabin cruiser at the dock are not acceptable reasons to neglect real, down to basics parenting.


Dennis
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As a retired veteran of 20 years and during that time had my two sons would have loved to have been a one income family and had a normal quailty of life for my family, but that does not happen when you work at a lower then poverty level wage. So if you truly believe this then riase the wages so we do not need to live off of food line ups. can you do it???


GBL
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@Joyce

Sounds like a typical Albertan response...."Just throw money at it"


Dan in Quebec
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Finally a politician with a back bone that does not back down when her position is criticized. Good for her! To many politicians spread themselves all over the place to appease everyone and to get votes. We need more people like this that take a clear position and sticks to it.


TGT
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@Don

"As far as wives working"?!?

Just what century are you living in?


L.A.
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As a Finance Minister, she should have been making statements about the economy and Alberta's financial position. Instead she makes a statement on a highly controversial subject to throw people off the issue of finances.

Time for Ms. Evans to resign or to phone Alberta's Auditor General to review the books.


Government of, by, and for the people
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I agree with Iris Evans 100% about the need for a parent at home but I never want to see a job application with the question; "Were you raised in a daycare or by a parent at home?"

Parents are next under God to their children. No way should parents trust the state. I have plenty of evidence to prove that some agents of the state only care about themselves and lie all the time.

Anything can happen to a child in a state-run day care.


GWinnipeg
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Isn't that just like a Conservative to lump everyone into the same category.

I live in Manitoba and work full-time, as does my wife. Our 3 kids are doing very well in school, have excellent social skills, and are caring and compassionate individuals, including our youngest who incidentally has cerebral palsy.

She certainly doesn't give Albertans a lot of credit.


ktill
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Although her comments came as a shock to many people there is truth to what she says.Of course there are always exeptions to rules and therefore her comments were insensitive to many in Alberta. In most cases, who is it that will love your kids and always have their best interest in mind? Usually the parents. Its tough for kids when they are vying for the attention of a hired hand - struggling for someone to notice them and their accomplishments especially in their formative years. That being said there are some child care workers who do a fabulous job and really do have a way with kids. I have stayed at home through the years - my husband is in the trades and some years we have scraped the bottom of the barrell. We don't have a huge savings in place nor do we take vacations every year. There are sacrifices involved but it is worth it.

Being an example of sacrifice for those around us is not a bad thing and certainly we live in a country where people get their needs and wants list a little blurred.


Frank
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What is she the minister of butting into people lives? Hmm, no I see she is the Minister of Finance and Enterprise. Maybe she should restrict her public comments to those subjects instead.


Becky
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Way to go Ms. Evans!! I agree with this statement entirely. One of the parents should stay at home with their kids.

My parents did it with me and my brother and managed to make ends meet. Actually I think they have done better than most 2 income families. They didn't have to pay for expenses that most 2 income families do (ex. daycare and babysitting, after school programs, etc).

People do not seem to get how much they spend by not staying at home. But then again, so many people just blow their money anyway. No wonder they have to both work!!!

Besides the economic reasons, children should be raised by their parents, not other people. They need it so much to develop properly. Sacrifice for your children, people.


PB_Toronto
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So what...its her opinion and she is entitled to one. Why are some asking for an apology? Might as well say you are sorry for having an opinion. Get a life!


Dr. Dave W in Alberta
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There was probably some loss of context in the reports (imagine that, the media takes something out of context) but for the most part I do agree with her, especially about the parenting. It may require sacrifices, but parents should be raising their kids - and both parents should be involved. We've gone from a society where Mom stayed home with the kids while Dad worked to one where both parents work and have no time for their kids. I would suggest, when at all possible, one parent (and it doesn't matter which) stay with the kids - at least until they're in school. These are the most formative years and the most impressionable.

Yeah, you may have to do without the latest "toys" and fads but have you ever noticed young kids would rather play with the box over the new toy that came in it! Society in general will be better off.

As for the education and mental illness comment, I hope some of it was out of context. Lack of education, jobs, finances, etc. is a consequence of mental illness, not vice-versa. Treatment of mental illness is something our whole social system is lacking (not just health care but social services) though it is improving - especially compared to even 30 years ago.


DJ in Foothills
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I believe that Mrs. Evans is right with this view point. I myself stayed home with our two children until they hit school age then I went to work as a Teacher's Assistant. This job has given me the flexiblity to stay in touch with my kids through the day and I am off the same times they are. I have seen the positive effects that choice has been on my children. They were far more ready for school than other kids, they were able to listen to the teacher and there are no behaviour issues with my kids at school.

My decision to stay home was a positive one for me also!! I had the opportunity to see my kids grow and change!! What a blessing!! We struggled financially but it was well worth it and I would not have changed a thing.


Sue in Calgary
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Nice to hear someone not afraid to speak their mind. I stayed home to raise my son since that's what parents are supposed to do, not hire some nanny so they can buy a bigger car or boat next year. Some parents do have to work and I understand that, but in the neighborhood I'm in, the kids are pawned off to be someone else's to raise. Sad - stick to houseplants if you haven't got the time for your own child.


Ryan
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Good for her, we make sacrifices as a family so my wife can be home with our childeren. I dont care what your arguement is, children are more important that work. We don't have 3 vehicles and a boat and all the toys but we do have wonderful childeren who are cared for by their mother and not some rent-a-parent!


Jay
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All I have to say is that I completely agree with her. I run a daycare and the difference between my children and the ones I watch is astonishing. Now I also agree that in this day and age both parents need to work to afford to live, maybe they should use this comment to look into WHY both parents have to work.


Matt in NB
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What many fail to recognize is being a full time parent - whether men or women - is a full-time and very rewarding job which is one of the most honorable professions.


Mr. B.
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I guess in a perfect world, it would be great to have one parent @ home & the other @ work. When we grew up, that was the way it was. Times have changed & it just isn't possible all the time these days. Both my wife & I had to work when the kids were younger. We did the very best we could do & our kids did fine.


Offended
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Wow!! Just because one parent stays home doesnt mean the children will be raised properly. My mom worked full time and her and my dad raised five kids, all five kids graduated and most will secondary education. Yet a child hood friend's mother stayed at home and raised six kids with only one graduating from high school.Let see, one in jail, two on welfare and the rest in low income jobs.

What kids lack is structure,stability, the word NO and RULES!!!


Leanne
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Anyone with proper child raising knowledge is well aware that the finance minister does make an extremely valid point. Eventhough, it seems nearly impossible for one parent to stay at home in today's climate, she still is correct, psychologically speaking. Her intentions were not to single out a particular gendre, she remained to keep her language gendre neutral. In my opinion, she is just saying it the way it should be for the benefit of proper psychological development for the child, without any harm intended. Instead of opposing her view, we should take this as a beneficial piece of advice.


Theresa
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Hi,

I think that people waste too much time and energy worrying about what other people think.

T. Calgary


Tessa - Calgary
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I agree with the comments of Alberta's finance minister. Our society's parents have passed on the responsibility of raising our children to many different facilities, including preschools, daycares, and nannies. I also don't think that the government should subsidize families that choose to stay at home with their children. Albertans have an insanely high standard of living and sacrificing and lowering that standard to give your children a better sense of who they are is part of being a good parent.


my take on this
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Anything else bothering you Iris like drugs, alcohol, smoking or abortions. Conservatives have had majority governments in Albeta since the early seventies and prior to that the government was even more right wing. Alberta is long over due for a change in this right wing mentality.


Pamela Gunderson
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Parenting is work; it is a profession. We live in a system that is monetarily supported. If one chooses another profession (i.e. nursing, political scientist), I'm fairly certain they wouldn't work for free for very long (or, at least not work very well).


Norm
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Parents having the biggest house on the block, two Audi's in the driveway, a cottage on the lake with 25 acres of land and a 38' cabin cruiser at the dock , produces the same result in the children when they grow-up, which makes them greedy, uncharitable people like their parents, and the world needs less of those types.


LC
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Finally, somebody speaks the truth. Children today are lost and lonely. Most parents pay them off just so they don't have to deal with children they don't know and sometimes don't even like because they never spent enough time with them when they were growing up. Too much money and not enough guidance.


mr.rodgers
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Now you can understand why Alberta is always 10 steps behind the rest of the country


Diane
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I feel 1 parent should be home with the children for 4-5 years, howver, in this economy ,I think that a monetary incentive should be offered to those families affected. I do not know if the government could afford to pay the parent what they are worth!!!!


Brad Sorenson
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Way too often parents trade their childs standard of living for their own. They justify it by telling themselves and anyone that'll listen that the bigger home, newer car, nicer stuff is for the whole family. But that is crap, a four year old is always happier with a parent than without and they don't care if the home is 1000 sqft or 2000 sqft as long as mom or dad is there. The sad truth is that kid in the bigger home with no both parents working doesn't even enjoy it because he spends his time in the cramped quarters of daycare 50% of his waking life.


Linda
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On a personal note, I totally agree with Leanne's comment. On a political note, with the high cost of housing, food, clothing, education which is our basic necessity and not to mention being taxed to max,etc.

We as Canadians are fed up with struggling just to survive, I call on all 3 levels of Government to come up with a solution so that our future children can have a proper upbringing and not being dropped off to daycare. Nobody should have to come from school with no guardians at home.

Point made.


Parent in Calgary
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God forbid someone have an OPINION.

It seems no matter what opinion someone in government expresses, someone is all up in arms about it.

Well GUESS WHAT? Children **ARE** better off with a full time parent.

Can't manage it because one parent doesn't make enough? Maybe if more people stayed home to raise their kids, there would be less people to fill positions, making employees more valuable and worth paying more.

With so many people in the work force, employees are literally a dime a dozen.

Maybe you can't just have both parents enter the work force with no consequences other than more income, huh?


Jen
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Thank you, thank you Iris...for having the courage and common sense to say what you did publicly. You go girl!
No apologies needed.


mclark
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As far as her comments go - she may have had a point, but it's far from a black and white situation. And truthfully, she isn't in a position to judge people on their family decisions - certainly not by assuming a two working parent family is not spending any time with their kids and spending copious amounts of money on "stuff". Any facts to go with that? I thought not. Besides, who says those stay-home parents are utilizing their bigger chunk of time wisely? The whole child care debate rages on. Why not just accept that good parents will parent to the best of their ability, with the time, energy and money they have, to raise their children to be healthy, happy, contributing members of society. Same goes for the non-working parents. Instead of debating who is right, why not work together to make sure all kids get a good start in life. Don't criticize people for having a second car, and don't pat yourself on the back for the great 'sacrifice' you made staying home. We all make sacrifices, either in time, money, whatever. Neither situation is completely right, all of the time. As far as the education and mental illness comments, well, that proves she doesn't have her own head screwed on straight.

Maybe she should apologize, for judging.


pat in AB
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I agree. People that decide to have children should raise them as it probably would reduce the trash on the streets but the gov't should also have better tax breaks for people that choose to raise their kids rather than the people who choose to send their kids to day care.


Chris in Calgary
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I feel that parents need to spend more time raising their kids, if required to have double incomes to maintain a desired life style this can also be acheived by turning off the TV, getting off the coach and going out and spending quality time.

I applaud her comments and wonder when our goverment is going to allow income splitting to make it possible for more single working families viable?


Rosanna - Calgary
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Ms. Evans is on the right track. She is calling into question what we as a society really love most; our MONEY or our CHILDREN. The amount of time and money we put toward caring for our children's development is a direct reflection of what is most important to us as a society. We put our children in daycare, we want to pay the least amount possible, and then we wonder why the youth of today face so many moral and ethical issues.


Dunny from Manotick
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The only people that are against her saying what she believes appear to be lefties with no real argument but a well developed ability to call someone names. They remind me of school yard bullies. It's funny how the left of center folks preach free speach and our right to just about anything but are the first to call someone names or call for their resignation for doing exactly what the lefties themselves profess to fight for. Keith in Brampton disagrees with her point of view which is fine but then goes on to say, "Too few politicians - or anybody - these days has the guts to do so. Mind you, I hope she's ready for the backlash and the loss of voter support..." Keith may come from the center of leftieness Brampton but at least he has a mature way of thinking.


BC Busa
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Well surprise another Albertan sounding like a dinosaur. That's why love them so much it makes the rest of the country sound like geniuses. Probably the reason why mountains separate the promised land of BC from these rednecks.


Brian
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Perfect. I love you Iris. Keep on speaking your mind and ignore the reaction from the out of touch liberals of this country.


Wendy Edmonton
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In today's society where you the family vary from two parent families to single parents,the response from Iris Evans, was at best a clear demonstration of a misguided politican who obvioulsy is not in tune with the people who voted her in office. Perhaps a course on common sense Iris would be something for you to consider. Sorry honey, welfare does not pay enough, nor should the single parent be forced to go that route to support such a back woods point of view. Good for you that you raised your children, you were lucky enough to sit at home. It does not make you a better Mother, just a little more fortunate.


Raymond
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One of the rare occurances where I agree with Minister Evans.
Her (correct) comments stand in stark contrast to the horrifying suggestion of a National Daycare Program so frequently espoused by the federal opposition parties. Imagine your children being raised/programmed by unionized socialists. Ugh...the horror!


nik
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Unfortunately, not everyone has a sugardaddy to bankroll 2 or 3 kids plus a wife. Basically what she means is "don't be poor and require two incomes to provide for your kids" or the next best thing "if 2 parents work, kids are gonna be tremendously screwed up". I don't think this is correct. I know plenty of people whose parents work for a living - they turned out OK (grad, med school, etc, similar to my family).


Zack Z from Calgary
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It's not whether a family has a double income or not, it's whether the parents make time to spend with their kids. There is a major difference. My parents both have an income, and I'm very sure that I don't go out shooting people and doing drugs.

That's because they actually spent family time with me. And THAT's what's important.

As a side note, it's interesting to see that the comments in support of her's get a thumbs-up and those who are against get a thumbs-down.

So then, she can express her own opinions and those against her can't. Logical.


Diane in Lethbridge
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Good for you Iris Evans. You merely touched a long-neglected nerve.

I made huge financial sacrifices in order to stay home with my kids. It wasn't easy - but it was the right thing to do.

I know there are some situations where parents absolutely need to work. But I'll eat my shorts if they all have to. The people who are the angriest are not single parents, or even those who are struggling to make ends meet. It's the ones who feel guilty because they MUST HAVE brand new cars, big TVs, Wiis, X-boxes, golf memberships, winter holidays - or whatever. It's where our society has, and continues, to mislead us.

Staying home with our kids means investing in a generation that will one day be running this country. If anyone thinks we have lackluster leaders now - just hang on to your hats! We ain't seen nothin' yet.


Alberta boy living in Brazil
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She is bang on, Glad to see she is willing to speak truth and scrafice Political correctness so many Politicians do it the other way today.



DC in AB
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Hey Iris, I hope you washed your foot before you stuck it in your mouth!!! Seriously? You honestly think that only one parent should work, while the other stays home? The majority of families in this province cannot afford to do that. Both parents working is not an excuse for improperly raising a child. I'd also like to know how you can link lack of education to mental illness. I think perhaps you have a mental illness... called stupidity. I vote Tory federally, but these provincial tories seem to be looking more and more like a cartel. How I wish someone worth voting for were running against them! Gone are the days of somebody progressive like Peter Lougheed.

Mr. Stelmach, CONTROL YOUR CAUCUS!


RBW Hull
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While the minister has every right to her opinion, her comments show that she is out of touch with the economic and other realities many families face. Single parent families and families where both partnts work deserve respect and support not criticism.


Pat Lovitt
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15 years or so ago I read the Asian Economist - they were making fun of North Americans who "give their children to strangers to raise."
I am mother of 4 wonderful children, I did not get my wished for dining room suite until I was married for 20 yrs. I am now a 67 yr old Grandma of 6.
I raised my children with the help of a wonderful hardworking husband and we were broke for donkeys years, but we were happy and so were our kids. They didn't have Sun Ice jackets like their peers in school, we couldn't afford them, They got one each upon entering High School, and they were told it had to last them. We never had the police at our door or drugs in our home. We, like our kids learned the value of a dollar by doing without and NOT crying the blues, When we got what we wanted, we sure appreciated it, and also, took care of it.
I blame TV for our "instant gratification world". Keeping up with the Joneses has been going on forever. Teaching our kids that hugs and loves every day are far more important than anything material, is the best thing we ever taught them. They are good adults and parents, we are very proud of them. Good for you Iris Evans, don't you apologise! PS I was privileged to have finest profession in the world! It is called motherhood.


Nguyen
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I am very very happy to see that most of people here are with the Minister, so do I.

I wish that we all put family first, not in term of financially but spiritually.

Thanks to the Minister who has the courage to bring out the right point.


Durward
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She is absolutely right and it is a proven fact, so she should not apologize.


Former SAH Mom
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Congratulations to Iris Evans for having the courage and good sense to tell the truth. I live in Ontario where children are regarded as a liability and a burden, and the Liberal government is trying to find new ways to help us get rid of our kids. Now it's full day JK--Nonsense! Nothing--not a job, not social status, not money--is more important than my kids. I made the sacrifices and I stayed with them--and low and behold, they all turned out OK!

HOnestly, I can't stand the mouthy, aggressive kids who come out of daycare--so desperate for attention! Some of those places are even putting infants and toddlers on a "curriculum" to impress the aggressive, competitive parents.

Kids deserve a childhood, and parents deserve time to spend with their kids. Let's support the parents who stay at home and quit shoving daycare down everyone's throats!

Go Iris! Never be afraid to speak your mind!


Ben, Edmonton
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This is ridiculous. I live in Alberta and even though I don't like our government very much, what I really don't like is petty morons seeking out soundbytes against them all the time. Of course parents should raise their own kids. Man oh man. Can you say anything anymore?


bunny from BC
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WTG Iris! I think what you said was right, that is why you got to so many lefties.LOL
Good girl, stick to what you said, I am in agreement with you.


Stephanie from Ontario
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Why is Ms Evans getting all the backlash? People should listen to Liberal Kent Hehr's comments.

"This put Alberta in a non-progressive light and doesn't show women as contributing members of society,"

Why does he assume it will be the women who will be staying home with the children? There are many man that stay home with their children as well. It sounds to me like he has the prehistoric views not Ms Evans.



Laureen
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Don't back down Iris.
Don't fear the critics. Kids need advocates in this culture. Common sense with common observation is aware why kids are going astray. Not only do they need a parent at home, they need parents that stay together without going off and making blended upon blended families. Kids first!


John Klassen ,Fenwick ,ON
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Good for Iris.I am glad that someone had the guts to say what is best for our children.Those that are offended have a guilty conscious.Our children are any society's most important resource.Survival of society depends on preparing the next generation (our children).Nobody should be offended.


Rob
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We live in a free country and that includes free speech. If you don't like it , move to some other country where you get shot for voiceing your opinion. So maybe try living there.That way you will not be offened by what someone says. You can't say anything anymore or voice your opinion. Get a life! Sound like a bunch of school kids, grow up!


sunny
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people would be amazed the cost saving if a parent stayed at home.you can function with one vehicle no child care costs, groceries are less because you are able to prepare more meals at home, clothing is less because you don`t have to have expensive work clothes, the list goes on. My husbandand I worked it out and it was more financially productive for me to work casual when my kids were small instead of full time. My kids are teens now and are wonderful well rounded kids. I do not regret for one minute our choices and believe that parents needs to raise their kids not day care or baby sitters!


tc
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First to Kevin in Alberta. I live in Alberta, I dont like her comments and guess what, Im not leaving. So suck on that.
As for those who think she is right I wouldnt be so quick to listen to her on parental skills. When her kids were young she had them digging through garbage in the neighbourhood to collect product labels for her to enter contests. Not a shining beacon of parenting.
For those saying 2 income families are only about having the big houses, big cars and constant vacations think again. After the 45-50 percent payed in taxes, user fees and other charges to all levels of government, the extra charges at schools, the inflation that outdistances wage increases most double income families dont have as much left as some of you think.
As for evans she is an embarassment to Alberta, along with the rest of this government of idiots. I guess if all families had one parent at home all the time the government wouldnt need to deal with some of the issues such as daycare. Not that they deal with many issues anyway. Her financial handling and stelmachs lack of leadership has put this province into a deficit for the first time in 35 years, have mishandled the heritage fund and decimated the education, health care and infrastructure in the province. But hey, at least their looked after with huge pay increases and benefits.


ultamatt in n.s.
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Dont be sorry for being right.


Sandy
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She shouldn't need to apoligize - she is absolutely right! We would have less social problems if more parents stayed home and raised their kids, if they could afford it.


Gail, NS
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So if the only 'good' parent is one that stays home with their kids, what does that make the other one, the one who goes out to work? Obviously not a 'good' parent or they would be home with their kids, too.

Can't afford for both parents to stay at home? Maybe you should sacrifice the car and house, and move into public housing because your kids need you more at home.

Don't agree? You still think it's ok for one parent to work, but not both? Well then, according to this, your kids really have only one 'good' parent (because you really can't have this both ways), and that's the one at home. Which one are you?




Nanook
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I agree 100%. That's what we did. One parent stayed home for 13 years. (Two kids raised.) It's the only way. Sorry to say. Can't afford it? Don't have kids. I can't afford a Corvette, so I don't own one. Our choice.


lulu
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As a 33 year old, newly single mom of a 4 year old daughter, I had to go back to work 25 years ago. Since that time I have worked full-time, part-time as well at times, plus gotten her through school to a diploma, training wheels, extra-curricular activites. She is a smart, funny, compassionate, caring, responsible woman, who has never been arrested, never been a druggie, never been an alcoholic, never consciously hurt anyone in her life.
Too bad I did such a crappy job bringing her up - by myself.
Iris - give your head a shake and please don't insult the single, working parents or the 2 parent families that must both work to make ends meet. Not everyone makes a decent wage.


F. Mersereau
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I live in New Brunswick and I have read nearly all of the comments above. I am very impressed (and surprised) that so many people believe that 1 parent should be home. I have always been blessed to stay at home with my 2 children. They are grown now...I have never regretted being a stay-at-home Mom...one of the best things I have ever done. If I felt that my husband and I could not have been financially capable of me staying home...then I honestly am not sure if I would have chosen to have children, as much as I love kids. Now my daughter is married, is a stay-at-home Mom and loving it. My husand and I...and my daughter and son-in-law...perhaps didn't have all the toys, but we were definitely happy and blessed. I have to say from experience that there is nothing more satisfying and fulfilling than being able to be there (at all times)for your children! Too many children are left to fend for themselves...it's just very sad.


TOMO
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This politician is oblivious to life-circumstances and the "real-world". She is in her late-60's, and is living in a time-warp. Her views are based on an idealistic late-'40's-early-'60's era life. Her comments are based on a traditional, married, 2-parent family; where the father goes to work (5-days/week, 40-hr. work-week). If her delerium would subside long-enough to bring her back to the present; she'd realize her comments are offensive to every single/divorced parent who works and sacrifices time spent with their child, to provide for the neccesities of life, pay bills, loans, and child-support. It's like she never even considered the millions of parents who are single, separated, or divorced; and need to work 2-or-more jobs, to pay for basic requirements. She should be forced to resign. Working Canadians of all marital statuses should be outraged by her comments.


Gen. Lee Wright
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First things first: Kevin Hehr, how dare you presume that stay-at-home-moms are "[non]-contributing members of society"?!?

That should stick to you for the rest of your career, you non-contriubting zero, hack of a politician. Secondly, how DARE you presume that the person who stays at home to care for a child, or children, is a woman - how "progressive" are you?

Shouldn't the liberal party, of all parties, be the one supporting gay marriage and horse-baby marriage, etc?

So perhaps you should consider that I'm a stay-at-home-dad who's a "contributing member of society" and raising my child(ren). Furthermore, I won't be voting for a non-"progressive" party such as your because you evidently don't represent me, nor should anyone be proud to claim that you represent them.

Shame on anyone for attacking MLA Evans for her principled stand.


Andy H
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I am from Ontario & Evans is right. Thanks feminism for dividing families and making women feel inadequate because it is impossible for a mother to work full time and raise an emotionally healthy child. Today's women feel there is something wrong with themselves because they can't accomplish it. Loose the consumerism & live on one salary.


DOWN WITH HOUSEWIVES!!
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If my husband wasn't on contract with the Army, he'd totatlly be a stay at home dad.

God forbid that I as a mother, actually enjoy my job and my life outside of the house AND my little girl at the same time. I went back to work when she was 4 months old and Im a better Mom for it. I enjoy every second I have with her and love coming home to her. Would I quit to stay home? Not in a million years.


Karyna
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Why should she say she's sorry, why does everybody always have to apologize? Geez, we all have our own opinions, must we all think alike??


Maggie
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My husband worked and I stayed home with our two children for 17 years and to this day I do not regret one single day of it, it was wonderful. More power to you, Iris.


Dave in Calgary
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I think she's right. People don't like to hear the truth. If Alberta put real value on family and made it financially feasable to raise children in a single income household, then we would probably of had children by now. Instead we chose comfort over certain poverty.


PapaBear
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Once again, I'm ashamed to be an Albertan, or as some call it, red-neck Texas-south.


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