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Death by boredom -- the slow demise of Facebook
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By: Josh Visser, CTV.ca News Staff
Date: Sun. Mar. 15 2009 7:56 PM ET
In the 1870s, the town of Deadwood, South Dakota experienced a gold rush and quickly became home to gunfighters, gamblers, cussin' and many a woman of ill repute. Now, Deadwood is just a tourist trap in boring ole' South Dakota.
In many ways, that's exactly what's happened to the social-networking website Facebook.
Facebook's formative years (2003-2006) started out much like the Wild West. Open, kind of barren, but people were free to do as they pleased without much worry of repercussion.
Ridiculous status updates, embarrassing photos, nasty late-night wall postings on an ex's wall following a "user is now single" update. With the creation of the news feed in September 2006, which allows a user to see what other users are doing, it was like picking up a newspaper in the morning and every article was a gossip story about someone you knew.
It was awesome.
But slowly, Facebook has evolved into something else. Something that manages to take up much more of my time, yet bores me in a way it never did before.
Here's how it happened.
Phase 1: Fear your neighbours! Then gentrify!
When the media discovered Facebook (scholars suggest this was sometime in late 2006 after it was mentioned on "The Daily Show with Jon Stewart"), there was one nearly homogenous response in reporting - "lock your doors, hide your face, evildoers want your information!"
After being scared about their privacy, users started clamping down on the way they allowed their information to be seen. The news feed has slowly been reduced to a shadow of its former self, with many users choosing to severely limit the feature.
At the same time, the website skyrocketed in popularity to the point where both your mom and your boss were on it. Suddenly, those pictures of you being held by the ankles while you're performing a keg stand didn't seem like such a smart thing to post.
Worst of all, were all the reported cases of employers scouting out Facebook for the dirt on potential employees. While Facebook profiles are always an idealized version of a person, soon people began setting their profiles to look like a bland virtual-resume -- just in case.
This is not to say there's not some fun, risqué stuff on Facebook. There is. But with the tent growing larger and larger, it's no surprise that people have become more tentative and conservative with what they post and how they act.
Phase 2: Every day is exactly the same
Every Facebook user over 25 knows (but won't necessarily admit to it) that the best part of Facebook is "catching up" with someone you haven't seen in years.
Seeing their profile for the first time, with its orgy of photos (are they still hot?), information on marital status, jobs and children -- well, that's as good as Facebook gets.
Eventually though, you are going to run out of people that you will want to glean your years apart with a check of their profile. Seeing that a high school friend travelled in India in 2003, dated a German while touring Ghana in 2005 and got a hideous tattoo - that's free entertainment worth my time.
But after that initial "catch-up", you are left with the day-to-day boring minutiae. A sample:
- Tim is going to the shower, then bed.
- Paula is tanning.
- Sarah is loving her new red kitchenaid mixer!
- Jen is without power and cable at home.
I already have my own perfectly mundane life to deal with, I don't need to know yours.
Dr. Robin Dunbar, an Oxford University anthropologist has said that the brain's cognitive power limits the size of a person's (real-life) social network to about 150 people. That sounds reasonable.
Yet, I have one legitimately popular friend with 922 Facebook friends at last count. I also have another "friend" that everyone I know despises yet has nearly 1,000 friends. This is data Malcolm Gladwell should write a book about.
Both of my "friends" have massive networks, but must be inundated with so much data it's utterly pointless for them. They might as well be logged into someone else's account because there's no way they are interested in the majority of people on their account.
You just can't care about your massive amount of Facebook friends, your brain won't do it.
Phase 3: Useful to the point it's work
This week it was reported that social networking has surpassed email in terms of worldwide popularity, with Facebook being the most popular of the social networking sites.
This is not surprising, as Facebook has an email system that simplifies getting in touch with people, as well as a built-in instant messenger.
Facebook has also become the go-to planning calendar for social groups of a certain age, with its Event interface making it easier than ever to plan a social gathering.
Add in socially-conscious groups to join, bands and TV shows I need to become a "fan" to promote, too many applications to count (I'm especially looking at you Scrabble!), birthday wishes to give and a quick log-in to Facebook can feel like the start of a marathon.
You know when you put off logging in to Facebook, the same way you put off taking out the trash, that's not a good sign for something that's supposed to be entertainment.
Somewhere along the line, Facebook stopped being a place to "creep" your ex-girlfriend's profile and became a semi-useful technology you can't live without.
The wild Deadwood of U.S. history eventually became Deadwood, the town that's a National Historic Landmark. Prettier, more useful and a lot less crazy - truly, the inverse of the mores of its founding.
I'm afraid that's the same fate awaiting Facebook. A place where people will stop by to say, "It used to be fun here."
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ex-facebook user
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Brian
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JB
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Joyce
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Peter
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Samantha in Halifax
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Paul
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Beverley Smith
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Alan - Toronto
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I avoided the rush and dealt with 'not getting it". Why? I thought it was better to have a life than to read about tidbits in others' lives.
It seemed to me that time would be the enemy of reading gossip. Why bother, when you can see and hear it everywhere. It's a form of "noise pollution", cluttering the mind with no worthy purpose.
Sooner of later another way to 'share' will come along. But, hopefully somewhere in the future people will discover it's actually better to share life than to just share 'noise'.
Overload doesn't equal overdrive. Kind of funny that the 'extreme' generation didn't get that and then the boomers did it to be cool.
Not.
James
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Jamie
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It was great to have found most of the 'ghosts' from my past, but as you say... now that they've been rediscovered the hunt is over and I may wait another 25 years before doing it again to see who's still alive.
Mary from North Bay
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You have presented us with a unique perspective of Facebook and raised interesting points for all websites of such ilk - of which there are numerous.
I like your writing style and enjoyed this commentary. This is the first time I've read your byline but I've made a note to watch for your future renderings.
Keep up the great work!
Keith Fisher
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andrew
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Peter in Calgary
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Sue in BC
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I have begun to become aware of a lull in my craving though. I have caught up and now check in with some friends by fb IM... but generally read the feed and check out the ocassional photo. I stay away from all the extra crap... "Wordtwist"... What's that?
I will stick around but only to stay in touch with the people I found interesting way back when... that, fortunately, are still interesting. Thank-you for bringing them back into my life.
Kate in Fredericton
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Love Outdoors
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Ken - not on FB
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Michael
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We have lost touch with the meaning of life, why we are here, where we are going etc... and exchanged what is of importance with that of little or no value. If we can't get an instant buzz we move on to the next wave of hype.
There is a lot more to life than chasing the latest fad which will be obsolete in 12 months.
Dale
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CJ - Alberta
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Gord
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Lorne
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Chris Ont
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The fact people are so open with personal information concerns me, that will be the next concern. It's just a big waste of time.
Mrs. Ogga
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Roby-D
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Beth
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Jonathan from Saskatoon.
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Adam
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Never did like it. It's teaching young people to be nosy gossips and vain exhibitionists. Older people making use of it simply are not very mature and have too much time on their hands.
Peter
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Faced out in Williams Lake BC
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Ralph - Niagara Falls
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Kim
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Those who use it for games, and spend ++ time on it searching and playing. - possiblly during working hours;; well - that's a whole other issue.
I find it excellent for keeping in touch with friends etc. Avoiding all the 'extra's' of games,advertisements etc.. has worked and I'll continue to use it for maintaining friendship and updates.
Allan M
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Just now, I'm looking at my 'notifications' tab which is supposed to alert you to to things like messages, status comments from friends, etc. Each day I've been getting advertisements for a singles site, which is frustrating because I'm mislead into thinking it could be something that pertains to my actual friends list. The notification message is as follows:
Your Zoosk date card does not have a photo yet! Upload personal photos to get more flirts. 3 hours ago
I've never signed up to that site, and the assumptive nature of this ad is clearly designed to 'trick' people into joining a site by making it appear that they were already signed up.
I'm starting to feel a bit rediculous for even checking it these days.
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vic k
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dK from Sudbury
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I'm ready to ignore the next overhyped fad.
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Get a real job.
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LaLa
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happy with FB
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Balanced Life
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I've been on Facebook for a while and rarely use the "applications". It is a way to keep in contact with many people and to share anything interesting with them without blasting an email to 100 people at the same time.
Facebook is a communication tool primarily. Do you sit in front of your email application waiting for something exciting to happen? Some posters have it right. If you're to the point where you complain about stuff like this, you need to get off the computer and get a life.
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I got registered on it for may be 1 day to see what it is and then asked them to remove my profile completely.
So, years later, what did I miss? Looks like nothing.
It's close to impossible to keep a web site for the decades and keep it on the flow. One of few such web sites is Wikipedia. I used to be a big fan of Yahoo!, but look at it now? They don't even deliver important news on the front page any more. I once asked one person, ‘why do use Facebook?’ and she said ‘Oh, to keep it touch with my family, my friends!”. May be I’m missing something, but isn’t it why God created e-mail?
Alexis in Vic toria
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Roger2
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JP
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What has the world come too
Who cares what saaly is doing or where Tom is going .
Yall need to GET A LIFE
woman in brandon
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Who wants to communicate with old high school people anyways?
I moved away to get away from those people.
Departed Facebook
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Nancy- Facebook is here to stay forever
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The frequency of one who goes on might slowdown, but its here to stay.
LTW
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John in Incheon, SK
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My buddies even made a video for me during their new years eve party that they posted on Facebook.
I understand a lot of the bitterness to wards Facebook, but it does have its uses.
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Recommending everyone to get a life...
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There's one person on my list that is on constantly... "poking" as they put it and it annoys the hell out of me. Come on, get a life. Sure it's a good way to get in touch with people, but it's not a replacement to life. It's demise is left to that of people's inability to get a life of their own or they feel the need to tell everyone every last minute detail of everything in their life, which frankly I'm not interested about.
Granted it's a great communication medium, but let's be serious, it's not a replacement to picking up the phone, or going to coffee with those that live 20 minutes away.
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If I have not spoken to someone in years there's a good reason. My friends know where I am and I know where they are. Have email and a telephone, so why on earth would anyone need Facebook?? Maybe Facebook uses need to get a life and stop feeling so insecure about themselves.
One day its all going to blow up and you will be filled with regret.
Jim
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Chris - Winnipeg
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Murray in Sturgeon Falls
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It was neat for a while to get instant updates on friends and family but it became information overload. For the others that kept contacting me, there was a reason why we lost touch.
My sister-in-law spends more time on facebook than she does with her own family. When facebook becomes your quality time with friends and family, then we are in real danger.
Rick In Calgary
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D in Ottawa
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Dawna from Edm
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Facebook reflects your life
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It is merely a virtual extension of your life; don't blame the interface if you're not entertained.
Francine
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Facebook was fun, now it's only functional, new people to it are on there all the time, as was I when I joined up. Now it's a way I keep track of my family spread out all over Canada and the US and to keep in touch with my friends all over as well.
Facebook is still great...just frustrating.
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Facebook was originally for university students. For us this was the ultimate way of communication and organization. There are many positives about facebook that people neglect and that many younger people use.
It's not that it is boring now but that they keep changing the format of facebook and it is getting quite confusing and pissing people off.
I know I will just get used to it and keep mine because it is a great way to easily contact friends w/o e-mailing or going on messenger. It's also a great way for a small group to accomplish big things such as hosting fundraisers etc.
Overall, I believe that people are more frustrated and annoyed than they are bored. All the university students who had facebook when it came out in 2005-06 have already gone through these stages. Now, its everyone else's turn.
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Colin, from Ottawa
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The fact that now you can organize, plan, email, and message other users is boring? I don't know where he's getting it from.
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Gary - Calgary
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mw in thunder bay
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But I do try to keep my status updates unique and fun with jokes like: "My friend invited me to go ice fishing, so I brought my usual assortment of fishing grenades. Who knew a shack could fly so high?"
Jason
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I think that the author is wrong. I predict that the facebook will be here to stay.
Jen
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Thinking Facebook can be a useful tool.
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I am not sure what all this talk about gossip is. I only connect with my friends and if they are telling me something happening in their lives how does that become gossip?
The game of pathwords and soduku keeps my mind working after years of chemo I find it is helping a lot.
Facebook, boring, probably. Useful as a personal tool to connect with people. I think so. Too many changes, absoloutely.
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done with facebook
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i think i'll just delete myself and rediscover the phone and regular email again. yah, that sounds like a good idea...
A very angry Nova Scotian
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Keith, your "time-line" of Facebook was just a lame attempt to make it look bad.
But Micheal, honestly, you are just desperate to make a quick insult towards Facebook. People have written off things like Pokemon as "fads", but guess what! Pokemon has gone on to become one of the best-selling video games franchises ever. Just because some people who use Facebook are like that doesn't mean all people who use it are like that.
And NO, I'm not a Facebook fanboy.
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AJ in Nashville
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A still angry Nova Scotian
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Dale, you screwed up big time at being humourous.
Adam, show me something where Facebook teaches people to be nosy gossips. Did I hear "Nowhere, I was lying."? Yes, I did.
Faced out in Williams Lake BC, Twitter is a much water-downed version of Facebook. I regret that I spent 5 days on it.
Technoman8, quit whinging about the new layout, for pitty sakes it's an obvious imporvement!!!!!
Ex-User, you were obviously spending too much time on it. The site doesn't force you to stay on it, YOU do.
Get a real job, that was a failure at insulting if I ever saw one.
Zevs, God didn't create E-Mail, MIT first came up with the concept, and I think it's a safe bet that God didn't go to MIT back when it was created.
Alexis, Twitter is just like Facebook but watered-down!!!!
It's not intrusive, stop spreading propoganda!!!!!
Roger2, just like Alexis, stop spreading your lie-filled propoganda!!!
Departed Facebook, I came up with a good come-back to your comment, but I refrained from saying it as it would offend everyone.
JP, Facebook isn't useless, your comment is.
Same with you, LTW.
Josh, the only person who needs psychological help is you, so you just might stop spreading propoganda.
Signing off, ASANS.
Phillip in Finland
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Why on earth would you want to put your children at risk?
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They are trying to look like Twitter is the developer's excuse... Well guess what... IF we wanted Twitter that's where we'd be... since we don't why would anyone be happy with facebook looking like Twitter?
Unfortunately it has deteriorated to "Twitter" a pure and frivolous Gossip column and who's having fun?... no one, so, in my opinion, facebook's days are now numbered!
I have severely put the brakes to my account and if I get fed up enough I'll be out of there, even though it did allow me to get in touch with frineds I have lost touch with over the years! It's sad to see the drivel take over our beloved facebook as it used to be. Unfortunately it seems the developers could care less about the negative feedback on the too many changes of late. No one is happy about it but they are set on digging it into the ground ready for burial!
Why do the developers need to fix what wasn't broken? There were improvements they could have made instead of trying to clone it into being another TWITTER!
James from Montreal
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I hate facebook. makes people loose REAL connection and social skills with each other
BC Wet Coaster
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Users of Facebook can choose who they share their photos with. There is an option that allows you to choose particular people that you wish to share photos and videos with. A careful user will make these types of distinguishing choices.
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Ally from Mississauga
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The majority of people who've commented on this article are bashing Facebook, saying it's making teens lose social skills, or it's useless and people can make facetime or.. "use the phone". Before social networking came, using 'the phone' burned teenagers social skills as well.
People who use facebook HAVE lives.. it's YOU people that feel the need to preach about what's wrong with society today that don't. Stop becoming so involved with what OTHER people do wrong, and focus on YOUR life.
Facebook is for people who (pathetically) like it.
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Sample:
"What R U doing?"
"Nothing. U?"
It is all so sad. ;)
A Guenther
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Teach your grandmas to use email for those pictures of the precious kids. Get her a printer and some kodak paper.
My time is filled playing online rpg and fps games and doing occassional searches and commenting on this board.
Don't spread your information all over the internet needlessly.
Meimei
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Louis Cyphre
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Capri
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Another Brian
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"Brian-
What a stupid article."
What a stupid comment
Mark
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What's so bad about someone posting pics of their holiday or new child or new toy? IF you don;t like it don't join, but you do not need to bash it for others who like it.
Molly
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I do however hate how people complain about privacy issues.
First: you choose to make an account, KNOWING what it was, and knowing it would basically be 'your life on the internet' !
Second: you can change your settings, so no one can see your profile except your friends! you can also make it so people can't search your name, only you can add people.
there are SO many ways around what everyone seems to complain about.
my opinion.