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Date: Fri. Aug. 10 2007 11:14 AM ET
There are renewed calls for women to be allowed to take their husband's last name upon marriage in Quebec, with one Ontario-born newlywed challenging Premier Jean Charest to change the provincial law.
Quebec has prohibited women from taking their spouse's name since 1981, but many young women today want to have the choice to do so, family law experts say.
The Ontario-born Caroline Parent, who lives in Gatineau, is among those frustrated by the long-standing legislation. The 27-year-old lives in Quebec with her new husband Karl Lamirande, but was appalled when informed she could not take his last name.
"One day we're going to start a family and I would love to share the same name as my future children," she told CTV News.
Parent has written a letter to Charest demanding an explanation.
"I outlined the fact that I thought it wasn't fair that women in Quebec don't have a choice in the matter," she said.
When the marriage law was created, it was hailed as a triumph by feminists and equality rights activists.
"It was seen as extremely progressive at the time," said Robert Leckey, who teaches family law at McGill University.
"I don't think feminists of the day imagined that 25 years later people would be complaining that they don't have the choice to be traditional."
In other provinces, a woman can begin using her husband's name after marriage. Changing government documents is also an easy task with a provincial marriage certificate.
In Quebec, women are sometimes allowed to have their name changed, but the director of civil status must give approval. Reasons to grant the change include names that are difficult to spell or pronounce, or names that are mocked or that have been made infamous.
Young women want option
Parent is among a growing group of traditional and young women who want the choice to take their partner's name, says Maria Battaglia, an accredited family and international mediator and radio host.
"I'm very surprised that no one has raised the issue of the constitutionality of not giving a woman a right to choose whatever name they wish," she told CTV Newsnet.
"To my knowledge there was never any debate -- it was just given as a fact of Quebec life."
The civil law reform took place shortly after the creation of the Quebec Charter of Rights.
Battaglia says many women are contacting her to see how they can change their last names.
"What I tell people is on all your legal documents, use your maiden name ... but in all social settings -- your children's schools, even your credit cards, anything else you're doing -- you should be able to use your husband's name," she says.
"There is a choice in terms of what you're using socially but there are no options when it comes to legal recourse."
With a report from CTV's Genevieve Beauchemin
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I applaud the budget, even though Health Care and education may stay unscathed. Sadly this cannot last and I worry to later this year where cuts will become enviable. If anything, this provides the Wildrose Alliance plenty of ammo when an election is called.


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Good luck Caroline!
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What we do now is anything Canada (or work)she uses my name and anything in Quebec she uses her maiden name.
Funny though...when it comes to income tax, Quebec will call you anything you want! :)
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Mary XX (as she was before the marriage)
Mary YY (taking the husband's last name)
Mary XX YY (add the husband's last name to her name)
I chose Mary XX (remaining with my last name), because I don't believe that identity changes with the marriage. However, I think that women should have the option to change her name, if they wish as well as men, if they wish.
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Womens rights in Canada is still a very fresh idea, considering women weren't considered human beings in Canada until 1929. This beautiful nation has come such a long way. I wish Ms. Parenteau the best in seeking what should be rightfully hers. Choice.
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Actually, in much of the rest of the world, a woman's name does not necessarily change upon marriage -- China, parts of India. There are endless possible variations on this theme. I think, perhaps, KJ intended that Quebec insists on being out of touch with the "Anglo-Saxon" world, which is not a surprising fact.
I'm of the opinion that the legal surname shouldn't change, but that people (man or woman) should opt to use whatever married surname they wish socially. To do otherwise creates unnecessary costs for the state.
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She said if I decide to use my husband last name, I have to fill-up the forms in the brown envelope and mail it to Ottawa.
I look at her, then I look at my fiance (now my husband) and with amazement asked, you mean I have the right to keep my last name? And she said yes.
I did not know that and at that moment I decided to keep my last name. The only thing I still remember was the excitement of the word "You Have the Right." That phrase still makes me happy.
I do not only love my husband but I really like him. We will be celebrating our 20th anniversary this year.
We were both immigrant Filipino. In our country, it was automatic and custom that you changed your last name to your husband name.Plus all the religious and cultural stuff attached to it.
I got negative remarks from his family and questioned by my so-called family here too.
But the hell with them, I love my father dearly and I have a great relationship with him. Even my father asked me why I kept my last name. So I have to explain it to him. He was in the Philippines.
I told him, it is my loyalty to you and I like my last name. And since I am a Canadian citizen now not a Filipino citizen, I've chosen my rights. And I never regret it until this day.
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Hey, what an idea! A choice and jobs!
Good Luck Caroline
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But I also believe this should work both ways. A husband should be allowed to take on his wife's last name.
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I say go for it Caroline - I will follow your story and help if I ever can! It's all about choices.
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1) I can't believe we are given so much exposure to such a quest when more important matters are not even discussed. So much is happening in the world and yet we are taking time to debate on something like this.
2) If, Mrs. Parent really wants her children to have the same name. She can give them both names (Lamirande-Parent).
3) I feel a lot of women fought for us to keep our identity. I think it's a step back if we go back to the traditional way.
I really also don't see what's the fuss is about!
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I had to use my maiden name in all official documents exept I was able to get my Canadian passport issued in my husband's surname and later changed it upon divorce.
Perhaps the solution is to allow name changes - regardless of marriage, sex, race, etc. through a legal means with associated fees of course. I'd hate to see any more government departments being set up in Quebec or elsewhere at taxpayers expense.
The joke is my current husband is often addressed as Mr. (surname of my first husband) when dealing with my son's teachers, etc. So, the door swings both ways.
And hey, what about gay married couples, shouldn't they too have the right to change surnames if they wish? And how about those who live together as legal spouses yet haven't undertaken a wedding for whatever reason - should they have the right to change a surname too?
The point is, we have to be realistic in what civil society can handle. I'd rather see governments focus on improved education, medical care, reducing taxes, etc. than expending efforts on name changes that will often get changed more than once!
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"Ms. Parent seems to have missed the entire point of this issue. Why are the children required by law to take the name of their male parent? That is the issue here, not which name the mother takes."
Children in Quebec can have any name: father's, mother's, hyphenated, combined, whatever. The issue here is that in Quebec, if you want to change your name (whether the male or female partner) after marriage, it's a legal name change. That means that it requires paying for the name change. AFAIK, no one I know has had an issue using their partner's name socially even if their official documents do not.
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As for people from the "rest of Canada" saying how retarded this law is and how Quebec should wake up, Why do you care? Stay in your province and shut up!
I have married someone from out of Quebec, and she kept her last name. What's the big deal? I would have been more appaled to learn that like in BC, the default course of action is for the woman to bear the husband's name.